Sunday, December 4, 2016

You Are My Sunshine





On Wednesday night, Mom and I watched the tree lighting at Rockefeller Center in NYC.   Every year we watch this.  We enjoy the music and anxiously await the lighting of the tree.  I kept wanting to get up and go turn your TV on for you to watch.   Then reality would set in and I would cry.  I listened to the music and continue to cry.   Mom was struggling too.
No one knows what our world has been like the past 3 years.  December 1, 2013 you had a seizure that we are sure now,  sent us on a path that ultimately we would lose you.
Heaven gained an angel but we have lost our baby.

I love this picture - it says it all.  You loved holidays.  I can still hear you say "Trick or Treat" when you would see all the Halloween decorations.  We knew that these first holidays were going to be hard, but we didn't realize how hard.

Today was the Sparks Christmas Parade.  We would go park and watch the parade.  You loved the music and decorations.  Today we reminisced about going and watching.  So many good memories.   We go past homes that are decorated and want point them out and say "Look Jodi"   Instead we cry because we can't do that.

You always knew when it was Christmas morning.  You were ready to open presents and didn't want to wait.   I loved watching you and seeing you smile. I loved that some years you collected all your presents and didn't open them, just kept them by you and slowly you would get into them.   Then you figured out that is was more fun to tear into everything and paper, boxes, etc. would fly everywhere  
You were so much fun to watch.  Seeing Christmas through your sweet eyes was so amazing.

Last year we decided to put Christmas off and then celebrate it when you were better.   Baby we didn't know what was happening and didn't realize that there were points of no return when dealing with certain medical situations.   Everyone gave up on you but mom wanted a Christmas miracle and I prayed for her sake that we would get it.  Turns  out the miracle is that your are celebrating your first Christmas with Jesus' on His birthday.  I am so happy but still so very sad because I miss you greatly. I can hear you sing "outie doo day doo day"   That was the sweetest sound. 

I see all the hustle and bustle around me and am trying to feel the excitement of Christmas but I feel like there is a veil of tears in between me and all the festivities.  I try to be joyful because no one wants to be around a downer.   I put a smile on my face, I don't talk about you unless someone asks.  Most don't realize the bond we had and you were some of the best part of me.  We were more then sisters.  I was your protector and I feel like I failed you miserably.  

Just know my sweet baby that "You are my Sunshine"  Without you many days in my life are so dark.  You brought so much joy into my life and I miss you.   I know you don't like to see us crying.  I am trying to be strong, trying work my way through this thing called grief.   I am trying to focus on others and not myself.   Somehow mom and I will navigate through to holidays and then through January 5th.  I can't believe it was almost been a year. 

Tomorrow we are going to decorate a little bit.  We are going to use the small tree that we put in your room last year and make that our Christmas Tree.  Mom bought some bells for outside. 

I hope you know Bug-a-Boo that you are thought of everyday and that I love you and cherish each and every moment that you were here with me.   My heart is with you today and always.




Tuesday, September 13, 2016

I feel lost ...............

36 weeks have gone by since I said goodbye to my sister.  My friends are trying to get me to say that she entered Heaven and is happy, healthy and full of life.   She is with God.  I try so hard to focus on that but inevitably I go back to my feeling of loss and not Jodi's gain in her forever body.
I worry that she is alone and doesn't know anyone, but today I remembered that Jodi knew no stranger and I know she is up there taking it all in, making friends along the way.
My friends and everyone else reading this, I need to tell you that the grief of her loss is soul crushing.   Over the past few months, mom and I are so beat down that we are struggling to frankly live. Mom said the other night that we are dying.   That actually kind of shocked me. 
Fortunately our pastor is coming over tomorrow night to talk with us.   We need this, pray for my mom as she is so questioning her faith.   I know she believes and she does, losing Jodi who for 50 years was her small child has left her questioning everything.  I know Jodi is with God and I hold to that belief,  I am just angry.  I am mad that she is gone, I am mad that I didn't do enough to save her, I am mad at her doctors for copping the attitude of it is the circle of life.   Everyone gave up but I didn't - she was my world.  Mom and I needed someone to fight with us to save her.
Every decision we made took Jodi into account.  I am not complaining but when she left, we kinda lost our purpose.    We love her, we miss her and frankly aren't sure how to live without her.
We really need prayers, we need healing, we need faith to continue to trust God's perfect plan.  None of this makes sense right now but like all of life's ups and downs, you see the how God had it all in His hands.   Jodi and I would sing songs all the time and always put her name in the song.  One of the songs she learned at school was He's Got the Whole World In His Hands - we would sing "He's got you and me Jodi in His hands".   I believe that with all my heart,  God has her safe and secure.  My heart is just broken, I need healing. 
Next week I am going to Vegas for a scrapbooking event with Teresa Collins.   My mom was supposed to go but her health is keeping her home.   I don't  want to go and leave her but she is insisting.   I am ready just like last year to fly home early if need be.   I really need this trip, I need to see my friends and kind of decompress a bit.  My roommates are ready for me to be a puddle but I am going to try so hard to rejoice in her life and be excited to tell anyone about my sweet baby sister Jodi and how much I love her.  
Pray for us as we start grief counseling and figure out how to navigate this new life, because I am tired of feeling lost.
I have to share this special video of Jodi's birthday celebration,  62 family and friends were on hand to wish her Happy Birthday.   It was an amazing day and Jodi deserved all of it.  Everything was for her because she is loved.
video

Please know that I am aware there are many who feel strongly about balloons and the affect they have on the environment.   I would never want to hurt anything or anyone.   Jodi loved balloons and we had to do something to honor her.   I will not do a large balloon release again.   In my heart, I wanted to honor my sister because she deserved it.  Please accept my apology.

Friday, August 19, 2016

Turning the Corner

The past 7+ months have been extremely difficult.   I don't know how to navigate this new world that I am living in.  At times it gets overwhelming.   I just take it minute by minute sometimes.   I have cried a lot the past couple days - I really miss her.  

That being said - I need to regroup.  

It is time to turn the corner - time to live life.   I want to start creating again, that is really good for my soul.   It is my therapy.   Jodi would love to sit with me and play while I worked on projects and I really miss that.  

I am going to submit some things for a Design Team - who knows what is going to happen.   I have plans - I know what I want to do, so now it is time to DO IT!!!!

Keep an eye out here - cause good things and sweet memories will be shared.


Sunday, February 14, 2016

Identity Crisis

Growing up there were some absolutes in my life.   I wanted to above all be a wife and a mother.   I hadn't decided on a career yet but knew being a mom above all else was so important to me.  I was the oldest of 4 and most of all the protector of my little sister.   Jodi was born healthy and happy, but when she was nine months old, she contracted the measles which led to a high fever followed by seizures which caused brain damage.   I knew at some point in life, Jodi would be my responsibility when something happened to my parents.

I wanted to marry someone who had the work ethic of my dad.  Someone who would work and support his family and above all that serve God.  Someone whose faith would be the foundation of our family and  our life together.

Once I graduated from High School - I left home to attend college in San Jose.   It was there that I decided to work with little ones as a  teacher and direct preschool centers.   Working with kids was my world.  I taught kindergarten for one year for Fremont Christian School - my favorite job to date.   While working as a center director I met the man whom I would marry.  

I moved away to be near him.  We did get married.  There were many issues in his life that made our marriage extremely difficult.    Because of issues beyond my control - bringing a baby full term  never happened.   I don't think that anyone can understand the immense hole or pain unless you have gone through it.  It was part of my identity that I had fill with something else.  We moved back to Nevada hoping to start a brand new life.

Because I had to support my household, I threw myself into my work.  Unfortunately, I got really sick and Lupus began define my life. So once again I go from being in a career working with children to having to scale back and deal with a stupid disease that has wreaked havoc on life.

Because I was starting some very potent drugs, I was forced to make sure that I would never have a baby, so that dream was crushed.    Eventually the disease won and I could no longer work.  I was approved for disability and that began to define who I was.

Because I was not working, I was able to be more hands on with Jodi and would be with her everyday after her work program until mom got home.   I felt like I was doing the most important thing in the world by being there for her.  

So as it is with life, my life goals and identity have changed again. I wasn't a mother, I was no longer working and soon I would be divorced.   The only absolute was that I was Jodi's sister and caregiver.   There would be a point where it would be her and I.  I was  ready for that.      

I began to throw myself into crafting and creating lots of fun things.   Crafting gave my purpose - I felt inspired .   I began teaching classes and started to redefine myself.  I was gaining confidence and enjoying life.   During the divorce - church was negatively affected so yet another way I had to redefine myself. 

Then as life will do another curve ball was thrown into the works.  Jodi started failing and we could not come up with why.   3 hospital stays, one surgery, many months of home care etc. and finally hospice care, life changed.  Jodi entered Heaven on January 5th.  

Now in this thing called life - I am having a huge identity crisis.   The things that I thought were absolutes and my hearts true desires are no longer there.   I am not sure where this leaves me.   Right now I am focusing on being a daughter and together with my mom trying to navigate this mourning process.   It is not easy.  God has opened doors and brought a wonderful pastor and a new church family in our lives.   I need to establish myself again in a place where serving God is top priority.

I am trying to get my creative juices going again. Creating is the one constant in my life and so I am sure that will help fill the voids.   I have learned that documenting and telling life stories is important and at times healing as we navigate this life.

What is next?  Only God knows for sure..............so till then I move forward.

Tuesday, June 9, 2015

Fabulous Birthday with my friends

I was so thrilled to have my friends willing to spend the WHOLE weekend with me, in at Staybridge Suites where we scrapbooked from Friday night till Monday morning.  It was so much fun.  Treion, Denise, Marian and new friend Cindy worked on projects all weekend and Sunday we watched lots of Disney movies  - I am so blessed.  We met at Cheesecake Factory and I was surprised that my friends Chris and Ann showed up too.   Then off to the  room that Treion had already decorated  :)
Thanks everyone for a great weekend.  Love ya all.









Goodie Bags for my friends :)
Didn't get as much done as I had hoped - but it is OK - had lots of fun!!!












One last crop...................Paper Daisies closing.

Was very sad when we heard that Paper Daisies was closing.   Wendy threw one last crop at the store and is going to work on having crops and classes at different venues.   So the weekend of May 15-17, we had a National Scrapbook Weekend Slumber Party crop - lots of fun with some of my scrapping friends.



















I won both of these - so cool :)
Worked on my Project Life Album Year 51







Challenging Myself to create more...............

I have been working on cards for my Project Life albums and for swaps.  I decided that I needed to challenge myself more and create, create, create.
Here is what I have been working on the past couple of weeks  :)














 
Here are some Pocket pages I created for my friends...........
 
Lots of fun, off to create some more fun things.